Extra Marital Affairs Marital QA

Dear WholeFamily Counselor, My husband is infatuated with a woman he works with and has been involved with her for four months. I have known about the affair for 2 months. I want to save my marriage and family (three children) but he does not want to listen to reason and now feels that he can't be with me because he does not want to cheat on his mistress. He does not want to listen to any objective opinion nor to any family, he just wants to live his fantasy. He had very few romantic experiences before we married and other women say that he just needs to get it out of his system.

Looking for Signs of an Affair Dear WholeFamily Counselor, My husband has had an affair and has left me three times. This last time he came home he said he would do anything. Even counseling. We have made an appointment to go. But what can I do in the meantime? I find myself looking for any signs to see if the affair is still going on. I want our marriage to work. I was in a bad car accident and have not been able to work for the past six months. I feel that his cheating is my fault.

Dear WholeFamily Counselor, I feel silly sending e-mails with a problem, who knows who's getting it. Still with no one I can really talk to, I suppose I'll try your good self. I am 28 and my wife is 27 years old. We have been married for 2 and a 1/2 years and have a wonderful baby girl of 18 months. Before I was married I'd had no real time on my own, I always needed to be loved and have someone there by me.