This couple prove the obvious - men and women have different communication styles. Brad typifies many men. He withdraws in order to deal with problems and concerns. If he's tired and pressured, he has nothing to give to Kathy. It's hard for Kathy to understand that it's almost physically painful for Brad to be with her when he's in this state.
Kathy's different. Like many women, she solves problems by talking it out with someone close to her. It's foreign for her to cut off from people when she's troubled. When she's in contact with someone close to her, she's able to clarify her feelings and deal with whatever is bothering her.
It's right for a woman to expect her husband to be there for her when she needs him. You don't make appointments to be with the person who is supposed to be your most intimate friend.
However, it's incorrect to assume that a man's need for space proves that he has no desire to be with his wife. Wanting to be alone is not synonymous with rejecting someone.
As long as there is no acceptance or understanding between them, neither Kathy nor Brad will be happy. Brad isn't getting the time alone that he needs as long as Kathy is upset with him. And Kathy gets nothing from Brad while he's feeling angry and resentful toward her.
How can Kathy and Brad learn to stop hurting each other?
Is it too late for Kathy and Brad to repair their relationship?
